The Digital Dead: Existence Beyond Death Online

I started thinking about this post a while back when I saw a former colleague’s Medium profile still listed as following mine. He died in the early days of covid. A quick check showed that his LinkedIn profile seems to have disappeared — not sure how that works. It was still there a few years ago.

I’ve read other articles periodically about this topic, but none of them had what I would consider satisfactory answers. I’m confident I don’t have all the answers either, but we are going to explore this here.

For most of human history, dying was relatively straightforward from a record-keeping perspective. Someone filed a death certificate, the bank accounts were closed, the house was sold, and eventually your name faded into family stories and dusty photo albums.

Today?

You might die on a Tuesday, and by Friday your email is still receiving spam, LinkedIn is congratulating you on your work anniversary, Facebook is reminding your friends that it’s your birthday, Spotify is generating a “Made For You” playlist, GitHub is notifying you of pull requests, and an AI chatbot trained on your public writing is happily answering questions in your voice.

Welcome to the strange new world of the digital estate.

We Don’t Just Leave Stuff Behind Anymore

Most people think about wills in terms of physical possessions.

The house.

The car.

The investments.

Maybe the family heirlooms.

Increasingly, however, our most valuable assets aren’t physical at all.

Consider just a few things you may own online:

• Email accounts
• Social media profiles
• Cloud storage
• Photo libraries
• Domain names
• Cryptocurrency wallets
• Password managers
• Online businesses
• Source code repositories
• Digital subscriptions
• AI accounts
• Digital artwork
• Virtual game assets

Some of these have financial value.

Some have sentimental value.

Some have both.

Some contain information you’d probably rather not have made public after you’re gone.

The Password Problem

Imagine you’re the executor of an estate.

You know your loved one had online banking, cryptocurrency, photographs in the cloud, several email accounts, and a dozen social media profiles.

Now what?

You probably don’t know the passwords.

If they used two-factor authentication, you may not even have access to the phone needed to log in.

Ironically, good cybersecurity often makes estate administration much harder.

Everything security professionals tell us to do:

• Use unique passwords
• Enable MFA
• Use hardware security keys
• Encrypt devices

Is exactly what can lock an executor out forever.

The Platforms All Have Different Rules

There is no universal “death protocol” for the Internet.

Every company has invented its own.

Some examples:

• Facebook allows accounts to be memorialized.
• Instagram follows a similar approach.
• LinkedIn allows verified family members to request account removal.
• Google offers the Inactive Account Manager, allowing users to specify what happens after prolonged inactivity.
• Apple provides a Legacy Contact feature that grants designated individuals access to certain iCloud data after proof of death.
• Microsoft, X (formerly Twitter), GitHub, Dropbox, and dozens of other services each have their own policies, documentation requirements, and timelines.

The result is a scavenger hunt for grieving families.

Every service requires different paperwork.

Every service has different rules.

Every service has different definitions of “ownership.”

Then There Are the Celebrities

For public figures, death doesn’t end an online presence.

Sometimes it amplifies it.

Many celebrity social media accounts continue posting for years after the owner’s death.

Sometimes they’re managed by family.

Sometimes by estates.

Sometimes by publicists.

Sometimes by corporations that now own the deceased person’s intellectual property.

• Announcements of new books.
• Previously unreleased music.
• Charitable causes.
• Archived photographs.
• Merchandise.
• Movie promotions.
• Birthday tributes.

To millions of followers, the account appears to remain alive.

The person is gone.

The brand continues.

Who Owns Your Digital Identity?

This raises fascinating legal and ethical questions.

• Can your estate post as you?
• Can it answer messages pretending to be you?
• Should it?
• Who owns your likeness?
• Who controls your voice recordings?
• Who owns your writing?

These questions become even more complicated as AI systems become capable of generating convincing new content in someone’s style.

Imagine receiving a new blog post written in the voice of someone who died five years earlier.

Would that feel comforting? Or, unsettling?

The law is still catching up.

The Rise of Digital Executors

Estate planners have increasingly begun recommending the appointment of a digital executor.

This person isn’t necessarily responsible for dividing assets.

Instead, they manage the online life.

Typical responsibilities include:

• Closing online accounts
• Downloading family photographs
• Preserving important documents
• Cancelling subscriptions
• Recovering domain names
• Securing cryptocurrency
• Archiving business records
• Removing unnecessary public profiles

For technically savvy individuals, this role may become just as important as the traditional executor.

What the Technically Inclined Are Doing

People who spend their careers in technology often approach this problem proactively.

Many maintain encrypted password managers that include emergency access features.

Others prepare detailed digital estate inventories listing:

• Important accounts
• Domain registrations
• Cloud providers
• Financial services
• MFA recovery codes
• Hardware security key locations

Some even automate parts of the process.

A trusted family member might receive encrypted credentials if the owner fails to check in for a specified period.

Others periodically export important cloud data to offline storage so that priceless family photos aren’t trapped behind a forgotten password.

The goal isn’t to weaken security during life — it’s to make responsible access possible after death.

The Accounts You Forgot You Had

Here’s a sobering exercise.

Open your password manager.

Count your accounts.

Not the important ones.

All of them.

Many people discover they have hundreds.

Forums they joined in 2008.

Shopping sites used once.

Old blogs.

Photo-sharing services that no longer exist.

Developer accounts.

Streaming services.

Fitness trackers.

Travel sites.

Some of these still contain personal information.

Some still have saved payment methods.

Some still have your home address.

Many people don’t realize how large their digital footprint has become until they try to document it.

Preparing Without Obsessing

You don’t need a 300-page digital estate plan.

But a few simple steps can save your family enormous frustration:

• Use a password manager.
• Enable emergency access or trusted contacts where available.
• Document important online accounts.
• Keep MFA recovery information in a secure location.
• Decide which accounts should be deleted, memorialized, or preserved.
• Include digital assets in your estate planning discussions.

These aren’t morbid tasks.

They’re acts of consideration.

Summary

Death used to leave behind letters in a box.

Now, it leaves behind cloud storage, authentication tokens, cryptocurrency wallets, social media accounts, decades of photographs, software projects, and an online identity that may continue interacting with the world long after we’re gone.

Our digital lives are becoming as significant as our physical ones, yet most of us spend far more time planning for the disposition of our furniture than for the disposition of our data.

Perhaps the most remarkable thing about the modern Internet is that it rarely forgets.

The question isn’t whether your digital footprint will outlive you.

It’s whether you’ve decided who gets to walk in it.

Notes

• AI / GenAI / ChatGPT / etc were not used to generate the text of this article.
• ChatGPT was used to generate the images.
• I used em dashes in my writing before the current GenAI wave was a thing. Not planning on changing now.
• Names have been changed to protect the guilty.
• None of the hostnames or users used in examples actually exist.
• Feel free to post any comments or suggestions below.
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• Do not attempt to use any ideas, code, or programs discussed here in a production environment without first testing it in a non-production environment.
• I’m not responsible for the spontaneous combustion of the known universe or anything else bad that happens to you today as a result of your having read this blog post.